Coping With A Polarized Society


In the spirit of of bipartisan motherhood, I don’t intentionally impose my parenting preferences on others. A lot of you don’t either. That’s annoying, right? I mean, when has insulting someone’s choices and views ever REALLY resulted in positively winning someone over to your way of thinking? It doesn’t. That approach causes the opposite effect. Generally, one digs their heels in deeper and dusts off the boxing gloves.

When that doesn’t work, peer pressure and bullying come into play. Oh, and by the way, that tactic is obviously already here. Be ready. History repeats itself.

As a mom, having half a society go directly “in your face” against what I’m sweating and laboring for with my kids in my own home really turns “mama bear” up a few notches.

The same applies to most everything in life. The topic of the moment in our country: political preferences. I’m concerned the most about the ANGER and DISRESPECT that seems to be ever increasing on both sides of the aisle.

Eh, it is what it is. Such is life. Maybe you are fed up with the entire propaganda machine throwing negativity at you through news media, social media and the world at large. Frankly, it makes me devil horn grumpy. I don’t want to live with that mood swelling up inside me constantly.

So where do we put it? How do we deal? Is there a way to live peacefully with others that seem to intentionally antagonize and polarize?

  • If you want everyone to believe and act just like you, then NOPE.
  • If you expect everyone with differing views to just let you be because you don’t push your views on them, then NOPE.
  • If you move to a deserted island with no neighbors or internet signal, well then MAYBE.

If you stand for something, wrong or right, it comes with the territory: there will always be opposition. It’s the “all up in your face with the opposition” that skyrockets the “annoyed out of my gourds” meter.

I mean, look. I’m 40 years old. At this point, my belief system of right and wrong is pretty well set in stone. That isn’t going to change much. However, my empathy meter can be moved. I know what it’s like to hurt, to feel ostracized and be in the minority so I’ve learned to listen. In order to listen to someone, there should be dialogue, not what we are seeing today. Telling someone what they should believe is massively ineffective.

Seriously though, people can label, march in hate, protest in violence, badmouth, lie, express themselves all they want but, if the goal is to win others over to one’s way of thinking with this platform, then the effort is in vain. However, if the goal it to tick off half the people someone knows, then mission accomplished!

“If you want to change the world, pick up your pen and write.”

― Martin Luther

When I first began blogging months ago, I wanted to write for parenting magazines. I actually wrote for several last year and I was thoroughly enjoying it. That is, until the election landed upon written communication in the online parenting world.

What I witnessed transpire in the content of those subscriptions that I aspired to write for completely turned me off. One-sided, hateful, dishonest, vulgar even.

Let’s just say I checked several top publications off my bucket list. Ha! Even if I had an article or two accepted and seen my blog grow by the thousands, I would have been compromising my integrity and, to this day, have no interest being associated with all that. Maybe my writing would have never been accepted anyway or maybe they just completely missed out on awesomeness. Either way, my decision is made.

I’m rambling. Imagine that.

I guess if I’m answering my own question of how does one stay positive and attempt to live in harmony with all this polarization, I would have to say this: make some key choices.

  1. I can’t change someone and they can’t change me with anger and in your face tactics. Back it on up. Not going to work. Let people be.
  2. One only controls oneself. So pick a respectful platform in which to express yourself. Cut the negative posts out of your news feeds if they make your blood boil.
  3. If you lead a true faith-based perspective of life here, then you understand you will NEVER fit in with all your inner most perspectives exposed.
  4. Search oneself, commune with the Creator and ask for the assurance that what we believe and stand for is of eternal value and does it represent the real truth.

At the end of the day, I’m learning to cope with the negativity by redirecting my emotions, seeking truth for myself (not what media or man tells me) and trying my best to avoid the nastiness. Now, I have my moments, don’t get me wrong. No easy feat here.

I want my kids to be kind but wise. If I want them to be this way then I have got to at least make it a priority to TRY, right?

“Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.” (Matthew 10:16)

Lose this balance, and you will be devoured by the world.

Food for thought. Finding balance: not easy but worth attempting!